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12 Habits of People Who Look and Act Younger Than Their Age

12 Habits of People Who Look and Act Younger Than Their Age

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Lamb Biryani

Mauritian Lamb Biryani

Yes, this recipe looks daunting, but to break it down it’s really just lamb curry, basmati rice and extra onions. The ingredient list may be long, but it’s mostly spices and herbs that you’ll have on hand if you cook South Asian food on a regular basis.

Chef Russell Auckbaraullee, owner of Penthouse Catering, created this Mauritian-style lamb biryani perfumed with saffron and rose water. You can switch up the lamb for chicken or beef — just adjust the cooking time. 

Marinade:

2 tsp (10 mL) each: ground turmeric, ground coriander, paprika or pure chili powder, ground cumin

4 whole cloves

2 black cardamom pods (optional)

2 cinnamon sticks

2 tbsp (30 mL) each: chopped cilantro leaves, chopped mint leaves

2 to 2-1/2 lb (900 g to 1.1 kg) boneless lamb (shoulder or leg), cut in 1/2-inch (1-cm) pieces

1 cup (250 mL) plain yogurt 

Lamb Curry:

1/4 cup (60 mL) canola oil

4 whole cloves

2 black cardamom pods (optional)

2 cinnamon sticks

2 large yellow onions, halved, thinly sliced

4 green Thai bird’s eye chilies, minced

1 tbsp (15 mL) each: garlic paste, ginger paste (or use puréed fresh garlic and ginger)

2 tbsp (30 mL) each: chopped cilantro leaves, chopped mint leaves

Rice:

3 cups (750 mL) basmatirice, soaked in cold water 30 minutes, drained

8 cups (2L) water

1 tbsp (15 mL) olive oil

2 tsp (10 mL) salt

1 tbsp (15 mL) cumin seeds

To finish:

1 tbsp (15 mL) canola oil

1 large yellow onion, halved, thinly sliced

1/4 cup (60 mL) warm water

1 g (0.03 oz) saffron

2 tbsp (30 mL) rose water (optional)

For marinade, in large bowl stir together turmeric, ground coriander, paprika or chili and cumin. Add cloves, cardamom pods if using, cinnamon, cilantro and mint. Add lamb. Massage spices and herbs into lamb. Stir in yogurt. Refrigerate, covered, at least 6 hours to overnight.

For lamb curry, heat oil in large pot over medium. Add cloves, cardamom pods if using and cinnamon sticks. Cook, stirring, 1 minute. Add onions and chilies. Cook, stirring, 5 minutes. Stir in garlic, ginger, cilantro and mint. Cook 1 minute. Add marinating lamb mixture. Cook, stirring often, until meat begins to brown and oil begins to separate from “gravy,” about 15 minutes. Reduce heat to medium-low; cover. Cook until lamb is tender, about 15 minutes. (You can add water if mixture gets too dry.)

Meanwhile, for rice, in large saucepan, combine rice, water, oil and salt. Bring to boil over high heat. Cook until al dente (slightly undercooked), about 8 minutes; drain. Stir in cumin seeds.

To finish, heat oil in small skillet over medium. Cook onion until browned, about 12 minutes.

In small bowl, stir together warm water and saffron. Let stand 5 minutes.

To assemble biryani, spoon rice over lamb curry in pot.

Pour saffron mixture over biryani. Scatter browned onion over top. Cover pot with foil or clean tea towel and then with lid. Turn to lowest heat. Cook 1 hour. Check to see if rice is desired doneness. If not, recover and continue cooking 30 minutes.

Remove pot from heat. If desired, sprinkle rice with rose water. Cover. Let stand 10 minutes. You can remove as many cinnamon sticks, cardamom pods and whole cloves as you can or warn people not to eat them.

To serve Mauritian style, carefully scoop top layer of “white rice” to serving bowl. Carefully scoop rice mixed with lamb curry to second serving bowl. Serve equal portions of white rice and curry lamb rice to each person. (Alternately you can stir whole pot together and serve.)

Makes about 8 servings.

http://www.thestar.com/life/food_wine/2015/06/04/audience-picks-between-mushy-and-burnt-biryanis-at-lighthearted-halal-food-fest-showdown.html

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Difficult People

20 Tactics the Pros Use to Deal with Difficult People

 

Some of these tips are general, suggesting a mindset for you to cultivate. Other tips are more specific in telling you what to do in the moment. Here they are:

1. Listen. Listening is the number one step in dealing with "unreasonable" people. Everyone wants to feel heard. No progress can take place until the other person feels acknowledged. While you're listening, really focus on what the other person is saying, not what you want to say next.
2. Stay calm. When the situation is emotionally charged, it's easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment. Monitor your breathing. Try to take some slow, deep breaths.
3. Don’t judge. You don't know what the other person is going through. Chances are, if a person is acting unreasonable, they are likely feeling some sort of vulnerability or fear.
4. Reflect respect and dignity toward the other person. No matter how the person is treating you, showing contempt will not help you productively resolve the situation.
5. Look for the hidden need. What is this person trying to gain? What  is this person trying to avoid?
6. Look for others around you who might be able to help. If you’re at work and there’s an irate customer, quickly scan to see if a manager is close by.
7. Don't demand compliance. For example telling someone who's upset to be quiet and calm down will just make him or her irate. Instead, ask the person what they are upset about and allow them to vent.
8. Saying, "I understand" usually makes things worse. Instead, say, “Tell me more so I can understand better.”
9. Avoid smiling as this may look like you are mocking the person. Similarly, humor can sometimes lighten the mood, but more often than not, it’s risky and it may backfire.
10. Don’t act defensively. This is tough. You’re naturally not enjoying the other person saying nasty things or things that you know aren’t true. You’re going to want to defend yourself. But the other person is so emotionally revved up, it’s not going to help. Remember, this is not about you. Don’t take it personally. (I know, easier said than done.)
11. Don’t return anger with anger. Raising your voice, pointing your finger, or speaking disrespectfully to the other person will add fuel to the already heated situation. Use a low and calm, even monotone voice. Don't try to talk over the person. Wait until the person takes a breath and then speak.
12. Don't argue or try to convince the other person of anything.
13. Keep extra space between you and the other person. Your instinct may be to try to calm the other person down by putting your arm on theirs, or some other similar gesture that may be appropriate in other contexts. But if someone is already upset, avoid the use of touch, as it might be misinterpreted.
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15. Saying, “I’m sorry” or “I’m going to try to fix this,” can go a long way towards defusing many situations.
16. Set limits and boundaries. While some of the above tips have encouraged listening and letting the angry person vent, you also have the right to be assertive (link is external)and say, “Please don’t talk to me like that.”
17. Trust your instincts. If your gut is saying, this is going downhill fast, be ready to do what you need to do to remain safe. Look for an exit strategy.
18. One response does not fit all. You have to remain flexible. Although these guidelines have proven effective in de-escalating tough situations, every person is unique and may respond differently.
19. Debrief. After the situation is over, talk to someone about what happened.
20. Discharge your own stress. You had to put your natural reactions on hold for a while. Now is the time to discharge some of that pent up adrenaline. Go for a run. Take your dog for a walk. Don’t let the emotions stay stuck in your body.
21. Give yourself credit for getting through an uncomfortable situation. It takes a lot of energy to not act like a jerk when someone else is behaving badly. Don’t skip this step!

 

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